Don’t Talk About Your Hell While You’re In It

You are human (right?) and while as an entrepreneur you help solve your clients’ pain, sometimes you are also in pain. Sometimes, that pain that you make your living helping clients with is also, for a brief moment in time, your pain. Do you feel like a fraud every day and go on as if nothing’s happening?

While at the WIBN conference this weekend, the dynamite Danielle Laporte, channelling my hero Dr. Wayne Dyer in a tight leopard outfit talked about this very topic. She said that while she was going through her divorce, she was selling books and advice on how to sort out other people’s lives. Similarly when I first launched my coaching practice, I had nightmares for 2 solid months trying to think of ways to get new clients.

Are You A Fake?

When what you teach ain’t helping you, do you stop the teaching? Well, I think that what you’re teaching (and selling) wouldn’t have an audience if there was no need for it in the world. No matter the source of the message, doesn’t the message still help those who don’t know what you know?

Hell Strategies

What do you do when you’re a money coach and you’re in debt or a biz development consultant and can’t get clients? Well, first and foremost you DON’T TALK ABOUT it WHILE you’re in it.

Another thing that you can do is to get some help. There’s a reason you’re in the situation you’re in so fix it. That, in my mind doesn’t negate your power in helping others.

When’s It Ok To Share?

Hopefully the mess will have moved far far away from your current everyday reality and you can (as Suzanne Evans says) then “make your mess your message”. You gain instant credibility and liking with that kind of authentic honesty.

What’s NOT Ok To Share?

Don’t share details that will hurt others. Don’t close doors you can’t open. Don’t bring judgement into your message. Bring hope and courage. Then use the lessons you’ve learned to help even more people.

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How to Maintain Your Post-Vacation Bliss

This was taken on the beach outside our hotel ...

This was taken on the beach outside our hotel in Mexico. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I spent the holidays alternating between managing my own fever and nursing my family through theirs. It felt awful but at least we were together! In a few weeks, I’m going to take a sunny south vacation so this advice by Toronto-based business and life coach Joshua Zuchter about easing my way back really resounded. Here are his tips:

• Take two-minute mini-vacations.  Taking short breaks throughout the day to clear your head or go for a short walk can make the transition to your work routine less aggressive.

• Get a handle on e-mail backlog.  Scan for emails that can easily be deleted and tackle the rest one at a time, either responding or filing them in relevant folders.

• Assign catch up time into your schedule. Schedule your away notice to indicate your return date as one day later than it actually is.

• Stay hydrated.  Drinking optimal amounts of water makes a huge difference in people’s mental health and attitude.

• Spruce up your office. Bring vacation memories into the workplace to remind you of the calm you felt while away.

As a small business coach, I am a huge proponent of rest and relaxation for my clients and for myself. If you’re like me, you are worried that the world and your clients will go on without you and you’ll regret that vacation but take my advice and don’t burn yourself out. You are the heart of your business and you need to refuel. So go ahead, I give you permission. Take a few days off and do something that you can classify as a vacation…
Come on Mexico!
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How to Get Your Loved Ones to Love Your Business

My loved ones are amazing. It’s only been a year since I launched my coaching practice full time. My family is so supportive that my retired parents are paying for part of my own coach’s hefty fee. My dreamboat hubby is willing to do the heavy financial lifting even though our income has been reduced and our weekly date nights have been curtailed.  The only fly in the ointment is my 3 year old who keeps asking why I have to go to work at night when I go networking. For those who want to be in the same boat as me, here are are some tips on how to get your loved ones to do support you the same way:

1. Keep your family informed. To win your loved ones’ support, you need to be clear about exactly what you’re getting into with this venture. Give them an overview of the business plan, including how you intend to succeed.

2. Acknowledge concerns.If your partner is less comfortable with risk or less excited about your idea, let them know that’s okay and address their concerns. If they feel heard, they will be much more likely to encourage you to follow your passion.

3. Carve out protected family time.Commit to being fully present at nightly dinners, weekend outings, or an evening walk with your partner.

4. Set limits together. Before you’re stuck in the heat of the moment, set ground rules about how much your partner is willing to sacrifice, personally and financially.

When you love what you do but those who love you don’t, there’s no joy in the life that you’re leading as a small business owner. It’s already full of so many challenges to grow the business that you simply don’t need another nay sayer. So take the advice above and get your family to watch your profits soar together.
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How to Harness Your Brains Secret Efficiency

Category:Educational research

Category:Educational research (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Well, I don’t know about you but I didn’t know that my brain had secret or not so secret efficiency. It is a far more blaze person than I who could ignore such an article…

1. Start your day with mind-calming activities. Whether that’s exercise, deep breathing exercises, listening to music, or reading the newspaper while you drink your morning coffee.

2. Schedule “do not disturb” time. Schedule focus periods throughout your day at the times when you’re most creative and strategic.

3. Apply the brakes on distractions. “Notice the distraction, take a deep breath and make a conscious choice to stay with the focus or follow the distraction if it’s urgent, rather than allowing [it] to hijack your attention,” says Moore.

4. Take frequent brain breaks. “Encourage your mind to wander and move your body to refresh your brain,” says Moore.

5. Fuel your brain. Regular exercise improves attention, memory and the brain’s ability to absorb new information. In addition to exercise, your brain requires certain nutrients to stay at its peak performance.

via How to Harness Your Brains Secret Efficiency.

Luckily I do these things, if not regularly. I guess that’s the real trick is to get on board with a regimen. Just like losing weight or meditating, anything worth having is worth focusing on.

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3 Tricks for Saying ‘No’

One of the loveliest, most capable clients I have heaved sobs of shame and dejection on our last call. For some time now, she had neglected her commitments to herself, her business and yes–to her coach, simply because she was incapable of saying ‘no’ to clients, friends and family. To put her needs and wants ahead of those she loved and served seemed an almost insurmountable barrier to her. Here are some tips to help those who are feeling like her:

1. Understand your own motivations.

If you are in the pattern of giving in to every demand in spite of the resulting burden, it may be a good idea to work with a coach or someone who can help you achieve a better balance.

2. Calculate the true cost of your burdens.

Make a list of the recent instances when you agreed to something that took you away from your main priorities. Now add up the time cost. Not just the time you spent away from your priorities, but the emotional time cost as well. What might you have achieved if all of this time was  put toward something more productive? Imagine the possibilities!

3. Create a reminder.

This could be a note that says, “Don’t give in!” or, if the meeting is in person, it might be a bracelet, ring, or a red pen; something that you don’t usually carry or wear.

via 3 Tricks for Saying ‘No’.

My 3 year old’s new daycare informed us that they no longer subscribe to the ‘naughty corner’ punishment but instead use the ‘redirect’ method. I’d heard of this from Ken Blanchard‘s Whale Done book but hadn’t ever seen it applied. This is where when someone does something they’re not supposed to, you redirect their attention to something else that they can be doing. I have used the ‘redirect’ approach when saying ‘no’ in the past. This involved telling the ‘asker’ what else you’ve gotta do instead, suggesting another resource that could help other than you, giving them a timeline of your other priorities and when you can complete their ask etc. There are many ways to ‘redirect’ if you are willing.

I urge you and all my wonderful clients to ‘redirect’ and heed the above tips because life is supposed to be fun, remember?

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7 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Now

stressed and worried

stressed and worried (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I just got back from a weekend away and it’s now back to work Monday. I must admit I feel ALOT better about Mondays since I started my business growth coaching practice full-time. However, stress comes in all forms. Positive stress, son having tantrum stress, parents not getting younger stress. You name it! Here in this article I read this morning, were surefire ways to relieve some right now:

1. Count your breath.  Counting the length of your inhale and exhale and gradually lengthening how long you take to exhale will help counter this stress response.

2. Sing it out. If sitting quietly and counting your breaths sounds impossible or unappealing, you can sing or hum to achieve a similar effect.

3. Drink more water. When your hydration level drops by even 2 percent, your ability to do simple math and make decisions is disrupted.

4. Do a body scan. Redirecting your focus away from your worries and toward your physical body for a minute or two can help alleviate stress.

5. Keep vacation photos handy.  When you feel stressed, look at an image for a moment, close your eyes and try to imagine all the sensations you were feeling in that place–what you saw, smelled, felt, heard and tasted.

6. Create a ritual. Instead of rushing to grab a cup of coffee or scarfing a snack, make a ritual of it, says Puddicombe.

7. Laugh out loud. Humor is the opposite of stress, according to John Morreall, president of Williamsburg, Va.-based Humorworks, which focuses on using humor in team-building exercises and other workplace activities.

via 7 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Now.

If you’re not stressed and you’re growing your small business, I want to meet you! I have so much positive stress right now from experiencing the highs of my first group program launch, to helping my clients market their own very first events, I can barely see straight. I will be using at least 6 of these 7 tips today and that’s a promise to myself!

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9 Qualities of Amazing Entrepreneurs

When I was restructured a decade ago, my outplacement company gave me an assessment to determine if I’d make a good entrepreneur. I failed the test miserably, claiming I was too risk averse and required too much structure to be a happy entrepreneur. Today, I’ve quit my day job and I am a happy entrepreneur.

Here are a few qualities of remarkable entrepreneurs according to a new article:

1. They find happiness in the success of others.

Great business teams win because their most talented members are willing to sacrifice to make others happy. Great teams are made up of employees who help each other, know their roles, set aside personal goals, and value team success over everything else.

Where does that attitude come from?

You.

Every great entrepreneur answers the question, “Can you make the choice that your happiness will come from the success of others?” with a resounding “Yes!”

2. They relentlessly seek new experiences.

Novelty seeking—getting bored easily and throwing yourself into new pursuits or activities – is often linked to gambling, drug abuse, attention deficit disorder, and leaping out of perfectly good airplanes without a parachute.

via 9 Qualities of Amazing Entrepreneurs.

At the core of my bliss is the ability to help people non stop. It’s the flexibility to work as much as I want. It’s the ability to spend my time with the type of soul centered, smart and innovative people who I’ve always wanted to surround myself with. What are the qualities that make you an amazing entrepreneur?

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